Sometimes, the harder you try, the worse it gets. That can happen in many things, take ‘creative art’, someone takes an old bed box spring, welds an old bucket and a chair on it, gives it a name and paints it.. calls it art. Someone else sees junkyard material that is in the middle of a campus.
Martial Arts can take the pressure. Does it include weapons? If you don’t practice self-defense, its not martial arts at all could be another argument.
Before you start swimming in the quicksand, lets take a moment to see the trap, BeFore we get in it.